We want to work with people who desire to be informed and who will put in the work to understand the law, formulate their goals, and pursue those goals with great focus. Why? Because those are the types of clients we can really help.
It’s sort of like learning to drive. First you need to learn about the process itself, then you can focus on moving forward safely. We’ll give you the tools you need to take the wheel. That said, when you need us we’ll be here for you every step of the way. We won’t let you go off track.
We’re here to help you learn about the law and the process so you can determine your unique goals. Then we’ll work together to implement a strategy to achieve those goals. By being focused at all times on realistic, actionable goals, we can help ensure a smooth ride.
Although you may believe your divorce may be knockdown, drag out affair, many of our firm’s divorces go smoothly. We will weigh the pros and cons before implementing any strategy or tactics. There is a cost for every action or inaction, we need to weigh carefully.
We have prior experience in civil litigation that we believe makes us stronger family law advocates. We teach you to process the emotion so that you can view your case as dispassionately as possible, like a governmental entity or an insurance company would.
Part of that is estimating the legal fees for every tactic or strategy we may wish to implement. That is the type of sophisticated thinking that large corporations implement in handling legal issues. We also emphasize implementing modern technology in our practice. Yes, we are a law firm that runs entirely on Macs. That efficiency is passed on to you in financial savings, stronger attorney-client communications and confidentiality, and a more consistent experience. We have the tools and the staff to move the matter forward quickly.
When you both bill by the hour and respect your clients, you find ways to be more efficient to save them money. Our business runs on word of mouth and we take it very, very seriously.
The below famous quotes apply not just to military strategy, but to a successful outcome of a divorce case, and that even includes lower conflict and uncontested cases.
“Information is Power.”
“Know Thy Enemy but Know Thyself.” “
“In a Battle Between a Bear and an Alligator, Who Will Win? It depends on the Terrain.”
We Want You to Be Informed About New Jersey Divorce Law. The More You Know and the better you and your lawyer can communicate together, the Better Your Results Will Likely Be. Many people act as though Divorce is a game. We disagree, divorce is not a game. This is Serious Business. We’re here to help.
For years firm principal Carl Taylor has been actively writing not only articles for other lawyers in national and state-wide publications and seeking to be a thought-leader in the field of New Jersey Divorce law, but also publishing countless articles, blog posts, e-books, and other reports for clients, prospective clients, or anyone interested in learning more about New Jersey Divorce law and Divorce Procedure.
Our firm website has hundreds of articles and other materials as we believe you need to understand the law and be fully informed or you will not be able to set appropriate goals or remain focused on those goals.
We have seen first-hand the negative impact a lack of communication can have on clients.
Carl decided at a young age to pursue law school when as a child he witnessed his parent’s confusion over a legal issue outside their control. As he lived through his parent’s ordeal it appeared to Carl that their attorney failed to properly communicate with them and when he did it often came across as patronizing.
Carl vowed he would grow up to be a lawyer to help hard-working people and that he would do things differently. That is why we will always put our clients and their needs first in a down-to-earth manner. It’s who we are and what we do. We will never forget where we came from.
The positive feedback we most often hear from our clients at the end of a case are that we moved the matter forward efficiently, that we are personable, and that we have quick response times. That makes us smile, because that is what we work to provide every day.
We implement the latest technology to communicate with you and to be available to you. We utilize video conferencing, e-books, secure cloud-based technology to ensure confidentiality, family-law specific software, client management software, the use of credit cards and online pay, self-scheduling through the internet, and more to provide a timeless but modern experience. Our Podcast “Happily Even After” and our E-courses provide important information in different mediums.
You Have a Say. Get Informed So You Can Work Toward Your Unique Goals.
Effective attorney-client communication and a client being presented with the proper tools to understand the process are so important. This is particularly true in the area of family law, where emotion can often triumph over reason.
Proper preparation for the potential marathon of a divorce includes knowledge and access to information. This website gives you that.
This is the first step and if you retain us, we will remain committed to keeping you informed at all times. Nothing should surprise you during your divorce–it’s already difficult enough.
Whether your ultimately retain an attorney or not, knowledge of yourself, and knowledge of the legal terrain will lead to a more optimal result.
We’re people first and legal professionals second. As our clients you are the most important part of our business. We are down to earth and we offer practical advice on how to move forward.
Divorce can be hell, but it doesn’t have to be. We’ll steer you onto the right path, help you formulate plans and goals, and lead you to your Happily EVEN After.
Of Sharks and Dolphins
Recently one of my clients left a five-star positive Google review that contained the following language amongst general praise: “If you are looking for an amoral shark to punish your not-yet-ex for sins both real and imagined, this isn’t the law firm for you, but I strongly recommend Carl Taylor Law to everyone else.”
I went home that evening and read those lines over and over again. I read them to my wife and asked her input. Although it was a positive review*, I was a little concerned. Because of course lawyers have large egos and I am no exception. You want to be moral, but you also want to be a shark, or at least viewed that you have some shark in you. Moreover, it’s what many clients expect—even demand. They are paying good money and they think that’s what they should be paying for.
Somehow, despite being personally stubborn, occasionally ill-tempered, and when appropriate quite aggressive, this review was similar to other feedback I have received throughout my career. Often times that feedback is positive: “you were a pleasure to work with,” clients may say. Or “you were tough when necessary but I appreciate your being logical and having a steady-hand during my divorce case.” Other times the comments have been a bit more pointed: “You do have it in you to be a real mean bastard, right?” at least three clients have asked me over the years in one form or another.
Many lawyers bill themselves as being the “shark.” Despite having good success throughout my career with extensive litigation experience including winning cases in federal courts, appellate courts, and state courts, certain clients simply do not see me as a “shark.” I wondered if I was too down to earth. I considered perhaps changing my approach to become more aggressive or to be perceived as more aggressive. In short, I had a rough night’s sleep weighing these concerns in my head. And then I had an epiphany…
In a divorce you may think you want a shark, but often what you really need is a dolphin. It is said that dolphins can act as life-rafts and help distressed humans back to shore. Moreover, it is said that dolphins can effectively fight and often defeat sharks when necessary. Although dolphins may not go looking for unnecessary fights and may favor efficiency, when the stakes are high dolphins do what is necessary. Sharks may be indiscriminate in what they eat, dolphins are calculated and precise. Sharks may eat their own, dolphins do not. That night I realized as a lawyer I may be more of a dolphin than a shark, and I further realized that is ok. Besides, I am who I am. I can no more will myself to be a metaphorical shark that a real dolphin could will itself to become a shark in the ocean.
New Jersey Divorce and Family Law
Family law attorneys may be the only type of lawyers that need to keep tissues in their conference room. Some clients are sad about their divorce or custody situation, others are angry, and many are a mixture of such negative emotions. There are exceptions, of course, but this is the rule. They say divorce is worse than suffering the death of a loved one and it’s therefore only logical that the party’s emotions can sometimes take the reins of a divorce.
In law school emotion is not something often spoken about. We may hear about “emotional distress” as a type of claim in torts class, but dealing with strong emotions in clients is rarely if ever addressed. As I often advise clients, the law is callous. The law does not always make sense and the law is not always just, but for better (and sometimes) worse it does its best to utilize logic and reason rather than emotion. This leads to a situation in family law where occasionally even judges are at a loss about how to proceed given the level of emotion involved in a case. Duels remain illegal as of this writing and ultimately there is nothing a judge can order that will make up for how hurt or angry a divorcing party may feel at their ex.
I keep a poster in our office of a couple in the 1990’s dividing a beanie baby collection in court under the assistance of a judge. The point is simple: try to focus on the important issues! Paying me to fight for a pension or for fair custody makes sense; fighting over a jar of change does not. My background in civil litigation taught me to view every case through a cost-benefit analysis. My client and I need to consider the costs for my services, the cost of experts, and the likelihood of success for a given course of action to determine if the return on investment is worthy of the action. This is the way large sophisticated clients like insurance companies, banks, and government entities view litigation. I know because I have worked with such clients.
It’s often not the way individuals who are unfamiliar with litigation think—not when clouded with emotion. Those seeking a divorce may find that their tempers cloud their reason. The ultimate result may be a delayed divorce proceeding, hard feelings that may negatively impact their children, less personal satisfaction, and ultimately a smaller pie to carve up. People want to play games but divorce is not a game. It’s serious business with serious consequences and real risks. This is something the attorneys and staff in our firm recognize and it has become a part of the fabric of our firm.
At Carl Taylor Law, LLC we will work with you from the initial consultation through the end of the case to work towards ambitious but reasonable goals. Like a college counselor we will be honest if a legal position sought is a reach. Although most people would love to go to an Ivy League School, not everyone has a realistic chance. If something is unattainable we’ll do our best to tell you before you spend money and time on a losing proposition. Utilizing funds for ambitious but realistic results can be the difference between wasting time and money and moving the matter forward in a workmanlike manner. I’ll go on record that we may not be sharks, but we’ll do the best we can to be honest with you and to embody the spirit of the dolphin.
If you’re ready to move forward to happily EVEN after, call our team today at 908-237-3096 to set up an initial consultation.
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*All cases are fact-sensitive and there is no guarantee of success. Positive reviews may not be indicative of the outcome in all cases or in your case.